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wingedbeastFrom the comment section of a recent slactivist blogpost; "I seem to be getting under Fred's skin..." Same commenter in a thread of responses to the same comment; "Rather than risk making you radioactive by thanking you for your kind words..." Both Kirk Cameron and Ray Comfort have blamed the poor Rotten Tomatoes or IMDB reviews of their recent movies on a concerted effort against them.
I struggled with naming this tip. I don't want to say that anybody is unimportant. Yet, there's this tendency, particularly among evangelists and apologists, to interpret every action of other persons as being, ultimately, about said evangelists and apologists.
Not only must all positions and actions taken be about the apologist/evangelist and/or whatever grouping to which they belong, but all positions and actions must be about their virtue. "They blocked me from commenting because my truth was so compelling that they were afraid."
The problem isn't so much in the declaration of self-importance or self-virtue. It's never so much declared for judgment as it is just assumed, as though it's evident to all that, "they must organize their lives like I do, around me".
Don't over-correct with ostentatious displays of humility. That will simply lead to the same problem as we see the faux-humility covering up for hubris.
Simply acknowledge that the argument came up and they responded, that the movies might actually have been bad, that you might have done something that merited getting banned from a comment section. Not only that, but do so quietly, in your own mind.
This will be a sanity saver as you remember that other people are really like you... in that they're all as focused on their own lives as you are on yours.
I struggled with naming this tip. I don't want to say that anybody is unimportant. Yet, there's this tendency, particularly among evangelists and apologists, to interpret every action of other persons as being, ultimately, about said evangelists and apologists.
Not only must all positions and actions taken be about the apologist/evangelist and/or whatever grouping to which they belong, but all positions and actions must be about their virtue. "They blocked me from commenting because my truth was so compelling that they were afraid."
The problem isn't so much in the declaration of self-importance or self-virtue. It's never so much declared for judgment as it is just assumed, as though it's evident to all that, "they must organize their lives like I do, around me".
Don't over-correct with ostentatious displays of humility. That will simply lead to the same problem as we see the faux-humility covering up for hubris.
Simply acknowledge that the argument came up and they responded, that the movies might actually have been bad, that you might have done something that merited getting banned from a comment section. Not only that, but do so quietly, in your own mind.
This will be a sanity saver as you remember that other people are really like you... in that they're all as focused on their own lives as you are on yours.
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Date: 2015-08-03 02:31 pm (UTC)Then again, this whole series goes into some good descriptions of various facets of humility. *s*
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Date: 2015-08-03 03:14 pm (UTC)